• The behaviour is often subtle and hidden from others.
  • Mainly directed against individuals in marginalized groups.
  • It may seem harmless on its own. But, if used repeatedly, even several times a day, it can have severe consequences.
  • Can manifest itself in the choice of words, tone of voice, body language, and attitude in general.
  • It is often difficult to pinpoint or explain exactly what it is that makes the behaviour a microaggression.

Examples of microaggressions

  • Staring at someone.
  • Body language that shows someone is unwelcome. For example, closing a conversation group to block them.
  • Facial expressions that show that the individual is not an equal.
  • Assuming an individual does not speak Icelandic.
    - Asking "Do you speak Icelandic?" or "Do you need an interpreter?"
    - Speaking English even if the person speaks to you in Icelandic.
    - Pretend not to understand the individual.
    - Raising your voice so that the person understands your Icelandic better.
  • Name-calling.
  • Using words like "gay" to describe something in a negative way.
  • Talking down to people as if they are children ("Are you sure you trust yourself to do this?").
  • Distrusting people based on their looks or situation.
  • Showing impatience towards people because of how they look or their situation.
  • Talking about someone in the third person to others and not to them directly.
  • Assuming the parents of a child are male and female.
  • Assuming anyone who doesn't fit the Icelandic stereotype is a foreigner.

Two rules to follow

  1. If you assume that you will have to say "I was only joking" after you say something, then it might be a good idea not to say it.
  2. If you wouldn't ask a white Icelandic person this question, don't ask it.