Sleeping or unconscious people cannot give consent for sex. It does not matter whether people are in a love relationship or not, sexual intercourse without consent is sexual abuse. In many sexual abuse cases the perpetrator of the violence is someone who the victim knows.

If you have suffered from sexual abuse you might want to sue the perpetrator and hold them accountable. This guide aims to explain to you how the justice system process is, from you report it to the police until the case goes before a judge, and what to expect.

A guide to the Icelandic justice system for victims of sexual offences

Stígamót helps people of all genders who have been sexually abused.

Sexual abuse is when someone touches you inappropriately or sexually or  forces you to perform a sexual act against your will. Sexual harassment  with words or action is also abuse.

During the first months of the relationship Lára found it admirable and sexy how easy it was to talk to Þrándur about sex. But over time ...

During the first months of the relationship Lára found it admirable and sexy how easy it was to talk to Þrándur about sex. But over time his need for talking about and having sex only seemed to increase and she started finding it uncomfortable. Especially when he told her about a rape fantasy that he has.

One night Lára wakes up to Þrándur having sex with her. She does not know what to do so she does nothing. Afterwards, Þrándur thanks her, turns on his other side and falls asleep. 

Lára

Is this abuse?