Denying a relationship, as by not introducing a spouse to one’s family as well as to pressure for physical changes is mental abuse in both cases.

Queer people will rather experience prejudice and discrimination in the community than those who are not queer and it involves pressure, often called micro agresssion. Queer people can be abused at home as well. This way there are no places safe and the trauma still greater.

Samtökin '78 is the National Queer Organisation of Iceland. They offer counseling for queer people who have experienced abuse in close relationships.

This resource has been written principally to assist trans people who are experiencing or have experienced domestic violence. 

Domestic Violence: A resource for trans people

Hulda has been in a relationship with Elísa for almost one year. Hulda likes Elísa very much but does not feel satisfied. She has ...

Hulda has been in a relationship with Elísa for almost one year. Hulda likes Elísa very much but does not feel satisfied. She has still not met Elísa’s family even though she wants to. Elísa always says that it is due to some drama regarding her former girlfriend but Hulda is afraid that the reason is that she is a trans woman.

When Hulda questions Elísa about this, Elísa says that she does not want to introduce her to her family unless Hulda has a corrective surgery.

Hulda

Is this abuse?